Repair what’s coming between you. Have more peace in your home.
Therapy for High-Conflict Couples in Los Angeles
And Online Across CA, AZ, & FL.
The majority of your time together is spent walking on eggshells, just waiting for the next thing that will set one of you off.
And the tension between you is affecting your kids, your mood, and your ability to talk to each other about anything at all.
You may have already tried to get help and walked away feeling even more at odds and hopeless than before. Maybe past therapists focused on getting each of you to share your feelings, but once things got heated, there was no real plan for how to keep the conversation from falling apart.
At this point, the problem is not just that you fight—it’s that the fights take over everything and leave the two of you, and everyone around you, feeling drained. You don’t just want another place to rehash the same arguments, you need a way to reach and understand each other again.
Days in your household look like...
Giving each other the silent treatment for hours or days after a fight, and then trying to go back to “normal” by sweeping things under the rug and moving on.
Sleeping next to each other (when one of you doesn’t end up on the couch) but feeling miles apart because it is hard to want closeness—let alone intimacy—when nothing feels resolved.
Your children going quiet, acting out, or trying to keep the peace because they can feel the tension even when you think you’re hiding it.
Simple decisions about money, parenting, or plans dragging on because you can’t have a calm conversation about them.
My approach
I teach couples how to recognize when a conversation is going off the rails—and how to get it back on track.
A lot of high-conflict couples already know they need to stop having the same blowups—they just have no idea how to do that once things start escalating. Part of my job is helping you understand what happens in those moments, both emotionally and physically, so the conversation doesn’t keep spinning out before either of you can get a handle on it.
Using a structured, skills-based approach grounded in both the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), I teach you practical tools to slow things down, communicate more clearly, and repair after conflict instead of getting stuck in the same cycle of escalation, silence, and trying to move on without anything actually being resolved. We also work on the deeper meaning and unmet needs beneath recurring disagreements, so you can learn how to understand each other and work through things with more empathy, mutual respect, and care.
Having conflict doesn’t mean your relationship is hopeless.
Even if you’ve been fighting like this for a long time, you can learn a different way of getting through to each other.
What we’ll work on
Specialized therapy for high-conflict couples can help you...
Catch things earlier and slow down when emotions run high, so conflict doesn’t erupt out of every conversation.
Speak more respectfully, listen more carefully, and stop feeling blamed or attacked every time something comes up.
Understand each other better by learning how to reflect back what you’re hearing instead of just reacting.
Compromise in a way that feels more balanced, so neither of you has to win for the conversation to end.
Repair after conflict instead of dragging it out for hours or days.
Create a calmer home, feel closer again, and bring intimacy back into the relationship.
Break the cycle of conflict and get back on the same page.
Questions?
FAQs
-
If small disagreements turn into big fights, one or both of you gets overwhelmed quickly, or you go from arguing to shutting down for hours or days, that usually points to a high-conflict pattern. A lot of couples also feel like they are always bracing for the next blowup. If that sounds familiar, this work can help.
-
I work exclusively with couples and have advanced training in methods specifically designed for relationships, including the Gottman Method and Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). I help high-conflict couples understand why things escalate so quickly, learn how to calm things down before they spiral, and build tools for communicating and repairing more effectively. If you keep having the same blowups and do not know how to stop them, this is exactly the kind of work I am trained to help with.
-
That is often one of the biggest reasons couples reach out to me. When conflict spills into the home, it can affect the whole family and leave everyone feeling tense. Therapy can help you learn how to handle disagreements from a more grounded perspective, repair more effectively, and create a calmer environment.
-
Yes. You will learn tools to help you calm things down before they spiral, listen more effectively, express what you need without attacking, and repair after a hard conversation. I also give couples things to practice between sessions, because that is where real change starts to happen.
-
That does not mean you are beyond help. Some couples have been stuck in this pattern for years and feel like conflict has become their normal. Even long-standing patterns can start to change when you understand what is happening and have the right tools to handle it differently.
-
It helps when both people are willing to be honest and put in effort, because it takes two to tango. That said, couples do not always start in the same place, and part of my job is helping you meet each other there. We can talk in consultation about whether this feels like the right fit for where you are right now.